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When I was little, snow days felt like the world pressed pause. I hope today feels cozy. I’m thinking about you and love you.

Domestic violence contributes to deaths from homicide, suicide, and even preventable injuries during pregnancy and is considered a preventable cause of death and injury. Prevention strategies involve addressing risk factors through education, promoting healthy relationship norms, implementing firearm restrictions for abusers, and community-based interventions to support survivors and interrupt violence. Over the next 12 weeks, I am going to single-handedly cultivate a following where words connect, not attack. With each week highlighting the 12 steps and 12 traditions all leading up to that alleged spirit awakening as a result of these steps. Is it real, does it work, and will the same happen to me? Now you may be asking about my own addiction well I'm proud to say I am over ten years free from my drug of choice and three years sober and I want to see if the 12-steps can be applied not to an addiction to substance but also to a problem with relationships. In my book I talk all abou...

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To get the best Walmart Cash Back deals you have to take their Cash Back Dollar Value / Total cost. $2 or more back on $5. Stay in that percentile+/- a few cents. The real deals are going to get you half cash back what you paid. Anything under $5 really isn't worth it unless you buy it already.  Value / Their Total Cost: Examples: $1/7.86$: 0.12723 $3.50/7.70$: 0.45455 In this example. The closer you are to the .45 percentage, the better the deal. The further away you are from that percentage means you're still getting a deal - just a significantly lesser value. Record: Always count your total amount for both at the end of each purchase. Transactions $ 7 for $35 3.50 for $7.70 $1.50 for $7.94 $6.25 for $20.90 $ 7.50 for $28.40 = $25.75 for ~ $90 Best/Worst Deals (1*5)/(6.47*5)= 15% 3.50/7.70 = 45%

Lately, I’ve been facing a big decision: whether or not to change a name connected to my work. This isn’t a small choice. Names hold meaning, history, and identity — and deciding whether to let one go can bring up a lot of feelings. Sometimes, strange timing or unexpected events can make you pause and wonder if it’s a sign to stop, wait, or rethink things. I’ve found myself asking big questions, feeling unsure, and even feeling pressure to decide quickly when I don’t feel ready yet. Change can be exciting, but it can also be scary — especially when you’ve planned something for a long time and worry about how others will react. It’s okay to feel nervous. It’s okay to take your time. It’s okay to check in with the people closest to you first. Growth doesn’t always look neat or confident. Sometimes it looks like hesitation, deep thought, and learning to be patient with yourself. Supporting Kindness and Connection Along this journey, one thing that remains important to me is promoting kind...

Have you ever wanted to tell people about something important you’re working on, but suddenly your mind goes blank? You might feel nervous, stuck, or unsure where to start. This is very common — and it doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. Often, we freeze because we’re trying to explain everything all at once. Instead of sharing every project, idea, and goal at the same time, it helps to take things one step at a time and let the conversation guide you. Start With Simple Context When someone asks, “What do you do?” you don’t need a long speech. You can start with something simple, like: “I run an advocacy project that works to make systems safer and kinder for people who’ve been hurt.” From there, you can listen and see what they’re curious about. If they care about learning → you can mention your books If they care about helping → you can talk about a petition If they enjoy creative things → you can share stickers or art If they ask how to support → you can mention donations You ...

This page explains why keeping children safe is important. It talks about how adults and systems should help protect kids. Child Abuse Incidents Sometimes children get hurt by adults who are supposed to care for them. This is very serious, and adults need to step in quickly to keep children safe. Emotional and Psychological Harm Children can also be hurt by mean words, being ignored, or being controlled. This can make kids feel scared, sad, or confused for a long time. Strain on the Foster Care System Many children need safe homes right now. When there are too many children and not enough help, it can be hard to make sure everyone is safe. Case Management and Court Delays Adults and courts are supposed to make plans to help children. When plans are late, children may have to wait too long for help. Staffing Challenges Some workers have too many children to take care of at once. This makes it harder for them to check on every child and notice problems. Consideration of State Interventio...

I just caught myself having a really silly thought and had to laugh at it. I realized I was about to overcomplicate something that was already working well. I’ve been focused on being honest and clear, and for a moment I considered doing something that would have taken more effort without actually helping anyone. So I stopped, laughed at myself, and decided to stick with what makes sense instead of creating extra work for no reason. Lesson learned: sometimes the best move is to pause, rethink, and choose the simpler, smarter path. Back to thinking of better ideas.

The Sugar Bounce Adventure! In the bright, colorful, energetic world of sugar something crazy happens and it can be explained in less than 6 minutes. Welcome to Body City, where tiny helpers keep everything running smoothly! Today, we’re following a group of sugars on a big adventure—one that shows what happens before, during, and after blood sugar gets too high but first, meet Sugo, our smiling sugar star: "Hi! I’m Sugo! I give your body energy—when things are balanced!" Before blood sugar gets high, sugars like Sugo travel calmly through the bloodstream - organized and balanced. "Look at us! We’re cruising nicely," Sugo says. Then Insulin, a friendly guide, waves and opens doors into cells. "Alright sugars, energy delivery time! Cells are ready!" Says Insulin. The sugars walk into muscle and energy cells. "Ahh… everything feels normal down here." Says the Leg Nerve. Body yawns peacefully "I feel good. Calm. Steady." But sometimes… too...

1. Step One. Let it begin with me. Step one in overcoming toxic relationships is to acknowledge and admit that we are powerless over these destructive dynamics and that our relationships have spiraled beyond our control. Recognizing this reality is a vital first step toward healing and change. It takes courage to confront the truth about how toxic relationships can undermine our well-being, safety, and happiness. Once we accept that these relationships are unmanageable, we open the door to seeking help, setting boundaries, and making empowered decisions to protect ourselves.  Furthermore, understanding the grave consequences of toxic relationships extends beyond emotional harm. Domestic violence, often rooted in such unhealthy dynamics, significantly contributes to deaths from homicide, suicide, and preventable injuries—especially during pregnancy. These tragic outcomes are preventable through targeted strategies such as education on healthy relationship norms, firearm restrictions...

I’m going to answer this carefully, neutrally, and child-focused) not as legal advice and not as a diagnosis but as a reasoned recommendation. Jane Doe’s daughter should not be placed with Jane Doe’s mother or stepfather.** Jane Doe should retain or regain custody with structured supports, provided safety conditions are met. Jane Doe’s mother should not be treated as a safe alternative caregiver. What should happen is protective stabilization, not punishment. Why This Matters: The Core Pattern Across nearly 20 years of documentation, there is a consistent pattern involving Jane Doe’s mother: Chronic boundary violations Emotional parentification of children Repeated minimization or dismissal of abuse Gaslighting and weaponizing systems (police, CPS, courts) Alignment with abusive men over vulnerable children Retaliatory behavior when control is threatened Escalation to custody litigation after failed involuntary commitment This pattern predates Jane Doe’s adulthood, predates her daughte...

Jane Doe’s Story — (Virginia) 1️⃣ CPS Took My Cat They're called the  cat-protective-services  and they're supposed to help protect cats from harm but sometimes they break the rules. For example. A cat-protective-services worker came to my house a lot—almost every day for two weeks and after two weeks they took my cat, nobody came back to check on me, my cat, or the house where my cat is now. That’s not fair because... In Virginia, the rules say the cat-protective-services workers have to try to fix problems first  before  taking pets, and they have to check on pets  after  removal too. 2️⃣ The Cat’s Lawyer Didn’t Listen I told the lawyer for my cat many times that my cat was being hurt at the new home, but the lawyer ignored me. Lawyers for cats are supposed to look into what people say and make sure the cat is safe. They didn’t do that for my cat. 3️⃣ My Lawyer Didn’t Help My lawyer said everything would be easy and promised to help me get my cat back, bu...

SOCIAL HISTORY Jane Doe was born in the US and lives with her father, mother and twin sister. Her father and mother met in the US and were married here. After their marriage, her father's five older children joined the family from Jordan. 01/10/07 "I met with Jane Doe's mother first, at her request. She reported that the family has had ongoing problems because of her the five children from his previous marriage in Jordan have lived with them for the past five years and have caused conflict between her and her husband. She and her husband are currently In marriage counseling to deal with the issues. Jane Doe processed at length her distress about body image and low self esteem which began when her parents signed her and her twin up for modeling when they were very young. When she was about 7 she began being pressured to lose weight and her sister actually became anorexic last year. Jane Doe said that her parents did not notice that her sister was eating one meal (a salad) a...

Leo is 17, sitting on the floor of a half-packed bedroom. LEO Most people think my life is a highlight reel. Modeling since I was seven, 'perfect' family, twin brother. But for the last year, I’ve been living in a house that feels like a sinking ship, and I’m the only one with a bucket. Let’s talk about it. LEO My parents signed me and my brother up for modeling when we were kids. They wanted 'perfect.' But by middle school, 'perfect' meant I was too big and my brother wasn't eating. While I was hitting the gym to feel like I had any control, he was disappearing. And the crazy part? My parents didn't even notice. They were too busy with their own drama—Jordanian family conflicts, gambling trips, and a divorce that was more like a toxic loop. Leo is at the gym, hitting a heavy set, interspersed with him looking at a stack of bills. LEO Then the 'reconciliation' happened. My dad moved back in, but he wasn't working. Suddenly, my mom is telling ...

After she left, he called her twice a day, every day, for four weeks, even after she told him to stop. When she moved, he contacted her daughter’s new school and shared past conflicts and details about her mental health. After she changed her phone number, he tracked it down. His number was later discovered attached to her Airbnb account, which she depended on for housing, forcing her to file a claim to have it removed. As the weight of her decision set in, and knowing she might never be able to reconnect with some family members, friends, or professional supports, she wrote a public letter stating she would never move back in with him. The following day, he called the sheriff’s office and reported that she was experiencing a mental health episode and was a danger to her child. ----------------------------------- There is documented, patterned, coercive behavior by her uncle that fits stalking, coercive control, and abuse by proxy. It directly intersects with weaponized mental health r...

Jane Doe is upset today. Her mother and step father have "neglected their three animals to death" and that they died from 100% preventable issues. Jane Doe described a harrowing ordeal where she asked her mother and step father to take the animals to the vet - they wouldn't and so the animals died shortly after. Jane Doe was disappointed because Jane Doe's mother allegedly posted a picture of their new cat spreading his legs on the fence. It is obviously for attention and I won't give it anymore than it's worth trust me. In the face of these animals, in the face of justice, and in the faith in humanity this shit can't be okay. Please donate $10 Monthly or $1 Once or purchase the Coloring Book for only $6.00 and show your support by picking up your WCNA Bookmark for only $2.50.

1/28/2026 Hey — pause with me for a second. There is no “evil personality” you’re not broken or stupid.  Frustration + mental overload are just doing what they always do: turning a tiny hiccup into a self-attack. Let me ground this gently and clearly. First what’s actually happening (the boring truth) You had a thought Your attention switched tasks Your brain dropped the thread Your nervous system got irritated Irritation turned inward and narrates aggressively That’s normal cognitive behavior, especially when juggling creative work, planning, and emotional content. It’s not a secret-keeper, not a split, not sabotage. Brains forget things constantly. The annoyance is louder than the loss. Second Let’s not let the inner heckler drive When frustration talks, it lies loudly. It says: “You should remember” “This matters more than it does” “You’re dumb for losing it” None of that is factual. It’s just adrenaline looking for somewhere to go. You don’t need to punish yourself for a droppe...

1/27/2026 Sometimes your brain is like a scared little smoke alarm that’s going off when there’s no fire. Hey brain—listen up for a second. That picture is information, not a time machine. Seeing something from yesterday does not mean yesterday is happening again. It already ended. You survived it. You are here now. Your body might rem asember yesterday, but memory is not danger. Memory is just a replay. Replays don’t get to control the present. Right now: You are breathing today’s air You are in today’s body You are safe in this minute Nothing new is being demanded of you right now. If it helps, try this gentle reset (no pressure, just an option): 👉 Name 3 things you can see 👉 Name 2 things you can feel physically 👉 Name 1 thing that tells you it is today (the date, the light, a sound, your phone time) That Tells Your Nervous System: “We’re not back there.” And one more thing your brain needs to hear, clearly and kindly: “It makes sense you reacted. But you don’t need to protect me...

1/26/2026 In Virginia, the rules say the cat-protective-services workers have to try to fix problems first before taking cats away from their adults, and then they have to check on the cats after the removal too. They're called the cat-protective-services and they're supposed to help protect cats from harm but sometimes they break the rules. 1️⃣ About CPS and My Cat The cat-protective-services worker came to my house almost every day for two weeks (and didn't really help with anything) and then, after two weeks they took my cat, and then, nobody came back to check on me, my cat, or the house where my cat is now. Write-Up 1. If the cat-protective-services worker takes a cat away from his adult without first going to the vet, going to cat training classes at the pet store, or connecting you with organizations that give away free cat food. That's against the rules. They are supposed to try other ways of fixing problems. 2. If the cat-protective-services workers fail to che...